This post is about friends.
I have been very lucky in my life to have very long lasting friendships. Some have been around since childhood and others high school, but what I have learned as I got older is that longevity doesn’t mean friendship… compassion, understanding, and the willingness to go along with your friend’s insane ideas… that is friendship.
Non-judgmental and unconditional… filled with obscenity, inappropriate behavior, and incriminating pictures. These are the things that comprise a bond that will last forever, and not only because those pictures can ruin you.
The company you keep affects your life on so many levels and even some you may not realize. Surround yourself with negative people, some aspects of your own life will take that quality. The key is…Trim the fat. Re-examine the people you allow in your inner circle, your safe space. How do they help you and how do they hurt you…
Compartmentalize. You have your ride or die friends, you have all seen each other naked at some point… you have ridiculous inside jokes no one else would understand… you’ve been in situations with them that you would never dare speak of again… they know your inner most deepest secrets. You fart in front of each other. These people are forever.
You have your hang out friends… your weekend warriors… you drink hard Friday night and immediately call them Saturday morning for recon to make sure those hours you can’t remember weren’t totally embarrassing. Drinking buddies that you think twice about before sending out that “what are you up to?” text for fear you may not make it home until Monday. They’ve occasionally held your hair back and/or cleaned vomit off of you at some point in time. This of course you will never remember.
Then there is just everyone else.
Now to the point… never underestimate yourself or let people make you feel like less of a person. I learned very quickly that the “friends” I thought were real because of longevity, really were just fillers for my life. Filling in the blanks to certain points in time where they functioned. While my REAL and TRUE friends were waiting in the background. These filler friends were self-fish… only needed you around to fulfill their needs (emotional or otherwise). They came with judgments and haterism (not a word but you know what I’m saying!) Some were around to use and abuse, some sucking the energy right out of you with their insecurities. Moral is REAL friends don’t do this. REAL friends are fighting the battles and telling the jokes in the trenches with you… not in the sidelines judging your battle plans.
My life became more fulfilled when I finally realized who these people in my life were. I dropped the negativity that was around me and began to prosper in a way that I didn’t think possible. I became the better version of me, just because I know that these friends (who really have become my brothers and sisters) accept me the way I am, support even my craziest ideas whole-heartedly, and love me with no conditions.
If you have these people in your life, always let them know you are aware of their awesomeness, because these friendships don’t happen all the time in a world where each man is usually about his own agenda.
Beer and Doughnuts.Vodka and Tomatoes. (this is one of those nonsensical inside jokes we share)